YES IT'S long but READ IT !!!!!!!!!!!!***MARRIED OR NOT*** You Should Read This....

A friend of mine posted this on a social network site, thought I would share.

"When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. i suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconscio usly I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’ s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divotrce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have afever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was too busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction it would have on our son, in case we pushed through with the divorce. —At least, in the eyes of our son—-I’m a loving husband…. THE SMALL DETAILS OF YOUR LIVES ARE WHAT REALLY MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP. "IT'S NOT" the Mansion or House, the Car, Property, the Money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Most of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up... YOU DONT REALIZE WHAT YOU HAVE UNTIL ITS GONE!!"

Bass Pro World & Richmond, VA

 What a weekend! Here's Caspian before our awesome weekend. He's so handsome and so silly! I think I am doing really good with my resolution to take more pictures of Caspian, Lol. Yay me!

 

Mi Amor had a Woody theme birthday party for Caspian when we were in California and Juan Gustavo bought Caspian this awesome Woody doll. Unfortunately I could not locate woody's hat before we left. 

Kisses for Woody!

Using flash indoors.

 OK here is when we got to Bass Pro World. There were a lot of really interesting props and things used to decorate the retail areas. I am so glad I had my trusty Canon. I shot with a really high ISO since it was dark inside and I knew I wouldn't be printing any of these pictures anyway.

The awesome welcome sign, I'd never seen anything like this!

Love the depth of field in this one!

A very old school camera. A "Brownie Junior" oh the days of film. How far they are yet how close they haunt us. I'm afraid of the dark, thank goodness for the Digital Single Reflexes of today with digital darkrooms. 

Caspian was frightened of this massive sized fish!

What beautiful fish they had in their indoor pond

Suhweet looking 'Coon if you ask me

52 Week Challenge: #2 Make Believe

An albino dear, didn't know these existed.

the sign does not lie, Virginia really is a big time hunting community. I learned the hard way, Kevin is an insane hunter now... The stories I could tell.

Caspian being silly. He enjoyed walking on this little bridge. He doesn't get out much, poor guy.

Looks like he is going to launch a rocket! Cas is so bright he's got his trigger fingers in there and everything!

No longer my sweet little baby.

Got this cute shot of this awesome little turtle design on the railings of the upper deck in Bass Pro World.

$1 Hot Dogs when you are leaving just in time for lunch. Caspian had TWO! Hungry hungry boy

wanted to have Cas sit on this but it was too cold.

Next we set our sail towards Richmond, VA. I'd never been and just wanted to experience the wonder I guess. Well I was not impressed, in fact besides the statue of Lee we didn't see anything worth mentioning, my feet did not even touch the outside of our truck because the population that resided in the area looked less than welcoming plus the weather was cold and we had no set direction so we decided to go back home instead.

General Lee of the Confederate Army

Jen Cares! I really do care! Jenne V Care Packages!

Just a tad creepy.

Overall we had a very nice day at Bass Pro, Kevin got his early Anniversary present. New boots for hunting. And I got a trip to Richmond, VA & a lovely candle-lit dinner with my two favorite fellas. Life is good.

Love candle-lit dinners. These smelled like Pumpkins and Vanilla.

My Boys <3

What the house looks like after a hard day of playing hard with Caspian. Lol

Daddy's First Basketball Game

Today was Kevin's first basketball game, he, Mark Flack along with their new teammates beat the opposing team. I do not recall the score but I know they won. Caspian did not want to sit still and we had to go and wait for the game to end in the car. When we came home we found out that Kevin had lost his silver chains including the one my mom bought him. We were upset but on the upside, looks like they are off to the start of a great season.

My boys stretching their hammies before the game <3 

Maybe next time I will take pictures of Kevin actually playing, he scored a lot of points but I was too busy chasing the munchkin around in the gym.

Jessefer, Vincent, & Ifran Three Fierce Fellows

Jesseffer, Vincent and Ifran are all my little brothers. No my mom did not have a dozen children, but there was always a lot of kids at our house when Jesse brought his friends over. From their days back in Doing Middle school, during the summer breaks they would come over and jump in the pool for a quick swim before my mom would come home and send everyone back home. Later these kids grew up and went into highschool, all three of them plus a few of the other regular visitors to our pool joined the Santiago High School football program, the fun times they must have had.  They have since graduated and some went off to college, gotten jobs and all are moving their separate ways. However something never changed and that was their friendship and love for music

Jesse is an aspiring artist, you can Listen to his Music Here

I've always been a sort of geek /slash/ nerd. Lacking of common sense and having an abundance of book knowledge yet not knowing how to use it, I liked computers, technical things and books books books.  Back when these three handsome fellows were in their middle school days they got a hold of my Mac Book Pro. There they started to make remixes and play with music. They not only made their own tunes but they wrote songs to the point of 'rapping' into the laptop microphone. It was cute then and I'll admit it sounded terrible but they've gotten better, ALOT better!

Vincent

Ifran Vizcarra

  The Lord only knows what is in store for these three fierce guys. Today they are having their portraits by me, tomorrow they will be on the covers of a major label CDs. I'm happy to have had the chance to not only know these great guys, but to get to photograph them "Back When. " From the bottom of my heart, I wish them the best of luck in their music career!

Note: I was a little apprehensive to share some of the Urban Session photos that I had done in California because I hope to reinforce my specialty in Newborn , Maternity, Children & Family portraits. In the past I have been contacted by a few aspiring artists, being that it is southern california and Los Angeles is so near this is a place to find a struggling artist. I've overcome my silly apprehensions and decided that as a creative myself I should not set boundaries to what the art of photography can do.